How often have you said I HAVE to do (blank) already today?

Checking in to unpack the switch-a-roo “have” -> “get” we talked about in the last email. Missed the “get more energy with this simple tip” email? Check it out here.

You might have things on your to-do this that feel like “HAVE” to. They don’t light you up but are necessary – blow drying your hair, buying more toilet paper, or washing your clothes.

Totally get it. 

But if you’re feeling overwhelmed, tired or even resentful it’s a perfect opportunity to get curious so that you can see what really needs to get done and what you think needs to get done.

If you have something on your to-do list that feels like a ‘have to’ ask yourself these 3 questions that use from my teacher, Sarah Jenks.

  1. Does it need to be done? 
  2. Does this need to be done by me? 
  3. Does it need to be done now?

Lean into this question and consider the feeling you’re trying to achieve by completing each item. There are some things we think need to be done but really we’re just wasting our precious time and energy.

For example, before vacation I like to have all the food out of the fridge, the dishwasher unloaded, laundry done, house cleaned, and snacks packed. 

Does that all need to be done? 


Have I put pressure on myself to get it? Yup. Did I get annoyed with Jay since I felt like I was running around with my hair on fire without support? Yup. Did I waste energy that I could have put toward something else? Absolutely.

Start by making a list of all the things you need to get done. Everything – house, parenting, life, work, and self-care.

Then use the 3 questions and categorize your list. 

  1. Does it need to be done? 
  2. Does this need to be done by me? 
  3. Does it need to be done now?

Be realistic. Just because that’s what you’ve always done doesn’t mean you can’t experiment with doing it differently.  

Cross off items that don’t really need to get done. 

Then consider delegating it to a spouse, friend, kid, or hiring it out for the “does it need to be done by me items.”

Keep a list of items that would be nice to have done but aren’t a priority right now.

Getting clear on your priorities will help you decide if it needs to be done now. During my Burnt Out to Glowing package I help clients get clear on how they want to feel and align that feeling with the actions they are taking on a daily basis. 

Your priorities are unique and I love helping women prioritize their to-do lists so that they have more time doing this that make them feel happy, whole and energized.

I want to hear from you. 

What is something on your to-do list that you are going to either delegate, cross off or hold off this season?

What item do you want to delegate or cross off but feel like it’s your responsibility but you want to stop doing it? 

Email me with your responses to the questions above or tell what you’re going to delete or delegate.

I love helping others re-prioritize this schedule so that you can do more of the things that light us up and can’t wait to hear from you.